What Does a Sex Coach Do?
So… what exactly is a sex coach? If you’ve ever found yourself whispering that question to Google or wondering what it really means to work with a sex coach in the UK — you’re not alone The idea of working with someone on your sex life can feel intimidating — or even a little strange — until you understand what it’s really about.
Spoiler alert: it’s not about judgment, it’s about growth. Let’s break it down.
What is a Sex Coach?
A sex coach is a trained professional who helps individuals and couples explore their sexuality, improve intimacy, and build confidence around their desires and needs.
Unlike a therapist — who might dig into the past and diagnose mental health conditions — a sex relationship therapist focuses on the present and the future. Coaching is about exploring what’s working, what’s not, and how to move forward into a version of your sex life that feels nourishing, empowering, and aligned with who you are.
Imagine someone walking beside you — not in front, not behind — as you figure out what a fulfilling, satisfying, and confident sexual life looks like for you. That’s what a sex coach does.
What a Sex Coach Does (and Doesn’t Do):
Let’s clear something up right away — there are a lot of myths about sex coaching. No, it’s not hands-on. And no, it’s not the same as sex therapy or couple’s counseling.
Here’s what you can expect from a sex coach:
- Creates a Safe, Confidential Space
You can talk openly without fear of judgment or shame. - Helps You Get Clear on What You Want
Whether it’s feeling more confident, rekindling intimacy, or learning new ways to connect, we focus on your goals. - Supports You with Tools & Practices
From communication skills to body awareness exercises — it’s practical, not just talk. - Safe, Non-Judgmental Conversations
You can talk openly — about anything from performance anxiety to past embarrassment, fears, fantasies, or curiosity — without shame. - Clarity Around What You Want and Need
Many people have never been asked: “What brings you pleasure?” A sex coach helps you explore and define that, without pressure or expectation.
What a sex coach doesn’t do:
❌ No touching or physical demonstrations
❌ No diagnosis or therapy
❌ No “one size fits all” advice — everything is personalized
Who Works With a Sex Coach?
The answer might surprise you: everyone.
- Individuals who’ve experienced sexual shame or lack of confidence
- Couples who love each other deeply but feel disconnected in the bedroom
- People who are curious about expanding their erotic self-expression
- Anyone who wants to better understand their own body, pleasure, or emotional blocks
Sometimes, coaching is about healing. Sometimes, it’s about discovery. Sometimes, it’s about feeling truly alive again — maybe for the first time in years.
Why Sex Coaching Matters
We live in a world that rarely teaches us how to talk about sex, let alone how to enjoy it, feel empowered by it, or grow through it. So when things aren’t working — when sex feels awkward, confusing, painful, or even just “meh” — we don’t always know where to turn.
That’s where sex coaching becomes powerful. It’s not about “fixing” you. It’s about guiding you back to yourself — and maybe even rewriting the story you’ve been telling yourself about your worth, your body, or your capacity for pleasure.
Final Thoughts:
Working with a sex coach isn’t about becoming someone else — it’s about coming home to yourself.
To your desires.
To your boundaries.
To your voice.
To your power
If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or just curious about what’s possible — a sex coach can be the partner you didn’t know you needed on your journey to intimacy and self-discovery. Meet Andre Lazarus, relationship and sex coach in the UK for men and women both.
Curious if sex coaching is right for you? I offer free consultations — let’s connect and see what support might feel good for you.
Listen to my sex podcast- https://www.podbean.com/ep/pb-k9qdg-1742b65
Andre Lazarus is a Certified Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Guide, trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 9+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. Andre specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile concerns, rapid ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.
Book a discovery call and enroll into my courses to discover a deeper connection to yourself and your partner!
