— And How Somatic Coaching Can Help You Reclaim Your Intimate Self
Have you ever found yourself wondering why your desires, turn-ons, or even your sense of sexual identity feel different after trauma?
You’re not alone.
When the body endures emotional, physical, or sexual trauma, it doesn’t just “forget.” Trauma can quietly shape the way you experience touch, attraction, pleasure, and even the kind of relationships you seek — sometimes for years, sometimes for a lifetime.
But here’s the empowering truth:
Your story doesn’t have to end there. Your body holds the key to healing, and with the right guidance, you can reclaim the deep, authentic connection you deserve — with yourself and with others.
How Trauma Affects Sexuality
Trauma isn’t just something that lives in your memories — it lives in your body. Whether it was:
- Sexual assault
- Emotional neglect
- Childhood abuse
- Heartbreaking betrayal
…your nervous system learns to adapt to protect you. For some, that means shutting down desire altogether. For others, it may look like confusing emotional intimacy with physical closeness, seeking affection in unsafe places, or questioning your orientation or identity.
This is the body’s way of surviving, not failing.
Common Ways Trauma Impacts Sexuality
🧠 Emotional disconnection from your body
You might struggle to feel present during intimacy or numb out altogether.
💡 Hypersexuality or loss of libido
Some trauma survivors swing between craving sex for validation and completely avoiding it.
💔 Difficulty trusting or connecting
Your body keeps its guard up, making it hard to relax into authentic closeness — even with someone you love.
🌈 Shifting sexual identity
For some, trauma can spark new or confusing feelings about their sexual orientation, boundaries, and preferences.
You Are Not “Broken.”
Your body is protecting you the only way it knows how. But survival is not the same as living.
And here’s where my work as a somatic relationship and intimacy coach comes in.
Somatic Coaching: Why Your Body Holds the Answers
Unlike talk therapy alone, somatic coaching gently helps you reconnect with the body. Why? Because trauma is stored there — in muscles, breath patterns, posture, and even the way you experience pleasure or desire.
Through somatic practices, I help you:
- Release stuck survival energy trapped in the body.
- Feel safe again in your own skin.
- Relearn how to feel pleasure without shame or fear.
- Cultivate real intimacy — with yourself and with your partner.
This is not about forcing yourself to be sexual or about “fixing” who you are.
It’s about understanding your body’s signals and reintroducing safety and consent at every level.
Trauma Can Shape — But Doesn’t Define — Your Sexuality
It’s easy to confuse trauma-induced patterns with “who you really are.”
But what if your desires, or your struggles, are rooted not in your true self but in your nervous system’s survival response?
Through somatic coaching, you can learn to distinguish:
- What your true, authentic sexuality feels like
- What is a trauma-driven response
- And how to heal the gap between the two
Healing Intimacy After Trauma — For Men, Women, and Couples
Whether you’re an individual seeking to reconnect with your body, or a couple trying to navigate a sexual disconnection after trauma, I work with both.
As a certified somatic coach specializing in intimacy, relationships, and trauma recovery — my work is deeply rooted in compassion, embodiment, and real transformation.
You don’t have to “figure it out” alone.
You don’t have to live trapped by what happened to you.
Ready to Start Your Healing Journey?
If this blog speaks to you, and you feel ready to explore your own healing, I invite you to take the first step:
💌 [Book a confidential call with me] — Let’s talk.
No pressure. No judgment. Just a safe space to explore what’s holding you back and how I can help you move forward.
I also offer deeply transformative courses, private sessions, and workshops designed to help you:
- Reclaim your sexuality
- Build secure, nourishing relationships
- Deepen your self-love and confidence
Your body remembers the pain — but it can also remember joy, passion, and love.
And I’m here to walk beside you as you rediscover it.