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Is My Anger Ruining My Relationship

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Anger is a normal human emotion—but when it starts to dominate your relationship, it can leave deep scars. If you’re asking yourself, “Why can’t I control my anger?” or “Why am I always mad?”, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle with anger—whether it’s one partner who yells and explodes, or both feeding off each other’s tension.

When Anger Becomes Destructive

We all get angry sometimes. But chronic anger, yelling, and emotional outbursts can slowly erode the foundation of love and trust. If you’re constantly arguing, or your partner is walking on eggshells around you, it’s time to ask: Is my anger becoming toxic?

Signs your anger may be hurting your relationship:

  • You yell instead of talk.

  • Your partner shuts down or avoids conflict.

  • Small issues trigger big reactions.

  • Apologies are followed by repeated behavior.

Why Can’t I Control My Anger?

There are often deeper layers beneath intense or frequent anger:

  • Unresolved childhood trauma.

  • Feeling unheard or invalidated.

  • Chronic stress or burnout.

  • Poor communication habits learned early on.

The truth is, anger is often a mask for pain. Exploring what lies underneath—especially with a relationship coach or in a counselling session—can be life-changing.

How to Reduce Anger in a Relationship

  1. Pause Before Reacting
    Practice the “90-second rule”: give yourself a full minute and a half to sit with your feelings before responding.
  2. Use “I” Statements
    Instead of blaming (“You never listen”), try “I feel unheard when…” It reduces defensiveness and opens the door for real conversation.
  3. Identify Your Triggers
    Make a list of common situations that set you off. Awareness is the first step to change.
  4. Create a Cool-Down Ritual
    Take a walk, step away, or write things down. It’s okay to ask for space before continuing a conversation.
  5. Seek Professional Help
    If you’ve said, “I can’t control my anger” more than once, it might be time to work with a relationship coach or start couple counselling. You’re not weak for needing support—you’re strong for taking responsibility.

 

When Your Partner Is the Angry One

Living with an angry partner can feel just as exhausting. If your partner is angry all the time, remember:

  • You’re not responsible for their emotions, but how you respond matters.

  • Encourage open conversations outside of conflict.

  • Suggest couple counselling sessions instead of placing blame.

What Not to Do When Dealing with Anger in a Relationship

  • Don’t fight fire with fire—escalating rarely helps.

  • Don’t ignore it—anger doesn’t just go away.

  • Don’t shame yourself or your partner—compassion helps change stick.

If anger is creating distance between you and the person you love, know that change is possible. You don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns. Whether through self-awareness, relationship coaching, or counselling, there are healthy ways to heal and rebuild.

You deserve a relationship where you feel safe—emotionally and physically. So does your partner.

 

 

Andre Sex Coach
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Andre Lazarus is a Certified Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Guide, trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 9+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power.  Andre specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile concerns, rapid ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.

Book a discovery call and enroll into my courses to discover a deeper connection to yourself and your partner!

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