So… what exactly is a sex coach? If you’ve ever found yourself whispering that question to Google or wondering if it’s just another buzzword, you’re not alone. The idea of working with someone on your sex life can feel intimidating — or even a little strange — until you understand what it’s really about.
Spoiler alert: it’s not about judgment, it’s about growth. Let’s break it down.
What is a Sex Coach?
A sex coach is a trained professional who helps individuals and couples explore their sexuality, improve intimacy, and build confidence around their desires and needs.
Unlike a therapist — who might dig into the past and diagnose mental health conditions — a sex relationship therapist focuses on the present and the future. Coaching is about exploring what’s working, what’s not, and how to move forward into a version of your sex life that feels nourishing, empowering, and aligned with who you are.
Imagine someone walking beside you — not in front, not behind — as you figure out what a fulfilling, satisfying, and confident sexual life looks like for you. That’s what a sex coach does.
What a Sex Coach Does (and Doesn’t Do):
Let’s clear something up right away — there are a lot of myths about sex coaching. No, it’s not hands-on. And no, it’s not the same as sex therapy or couple’s counseling.
Here’s what you can expect from a sex coach:
- Creates a Safe, Confidential Space
You can talk openly without fear of judgment or shame. - Helps You Get Clear on What You Want
Whether it’s feeling more confident, rekindling intimacy, or learning new ways to connect, we focus on your goals. - Supports You with Tools & Practices
From communication skills to body awareness exercises — it’s practical, not just talk. - Safe, Non-Judgmental Conversations
You can talk openly — about anything from performance anxiety to past embarrassment, fears, fantasies, or curiosity — without shame. - Clarity Around What You Want and Need
Many people have never been asked: “What brings you pleasure?” A sex coach helps you explore and define that, without pressure or expectation.
What a sex coach doesn’t do:
❌ No touching or physical demonstrations
❌ No diagnosis or therapy
❌ No “one size fits all” advice — everything is personalized
Who Works With a Sex Coach?
The answer might surprise you: everyone.
- Individuals who’ve experienced sexual shame or lack of confidence
- Couples who love each other deeply but feel disconnected in the bedroom
- People who are curious about expanding their erotic self-expression
- Anyone who wants to better understand their own body, pleasure, or emotional blocks
Sometimes, coaching is about healing. Sometimes, it’s about discovery. Sometimes, it’s about feeling truly alive again — maybe for the first time in years.
Why Sex Coaching Matters
We live in a world that rarely teaches us how to talk about sex, let alone how to enjoy it, feel empowered by it, or grow through it. So when things aren’t working — when sex feels awkward, confusing, painful, or even just “meh” — we don’t always know where to turn.
That’s where sex coaching becomes powerful. It’s not about “fixing” you. It’s about guiding you back to yourself — and maybe even rewriting the story you’ve been telling yourself about your worth, your body, or your capacity for pleasure.
Final Thoughts:
Working with a sex coach isn’t about becoming someone else — it’s about coming home to yourself.
To your desires.
To your boundaries.
To your voice.
To your power
If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or just curious about what’s possible — a sex coach can be the partner you didn’t know you needed on your journey to intimacy and self-discovery. Meet Andre Lazarus, relationship and sex coach for men and women both.
Curious if sex coaching is right for you? I offer free consultations — let’s connect and see what support might feel good for you.
Listen to my sex podcast- https://www.podbean.com/ep/pb-k9qdg-1742b65
Andre Lazarus is a Certified Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Guide, trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 9+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. Andre specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile concerns, rapid ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.
Book a discovery call and enroll into my courses to discover a deeper connection to yourself and your partner!
