Sex Coach in the UK for Relationship & Intimacy Growth
Andre Lazarus offers grounded, body-based sex coaching in the UK for individuals and couples seeking deeper intimacy, emotional safety, and honest connection.
Sex Coaching in the UK for Individuals & Couples
People don’t usually search for a sex coach because things are “fine.”
You’re functioning. You’re getting on with life. From the outside, things look fine.
But when it comes to sex or intimacy, something feels flat, tense, or quietly missing.
You might try talking about it. That conversation goes in circles. Or it stops altogether.
By the time people look for sex coaching in the UK, they’ve usually already tried a few things. Books. Podcasts. Therapy. Long talks that don’t seem to land. The effort is there. The shift isn’t.
This work isn’t about scripts or techniques you have to perform.
It’s about paying attention to what’s actually happening — in your body, in your reactions, and in the space between you and another person.
I’m Andre Lazarus. I work with individuals and couples who want intimacy that feels more real, more grounded, and less like something they have to force.
What sex coaching actually supports (and what it doesn’t)
Sex coaching is often misunderstood. Some people assume it’s purely instructional. Others confuse it with therapy, or imagine something clinical and distant.
In reality, sex coaching sits in a very practical middle ground.
More ease and confidence around intimacy
A clearer understanding of their desires and boundaries
Tools to communicate honestly without blame or shutdown
A way to work with sexual or relational challenges in real time, not just talk about them
In reality, sex coaching sits in a very practical middle ground.
This work isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about noticing what actually happens when intimacy gets close. Where you tense. Where you disappear. Where you go quiet or push through when something doesn’t feel right.
A lot of people live on autopilot in this area of life. Not because they’re unaware — but because slowing down around intimacy can feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar.
Sessions usually involve conversation, yes. But they also involve paying attention in a different way. To reactions that show up before words do. To habits that repeat themselves without anyone choosing them. When those moments become visible, change stops being theoretical. You have options.
A lot of people live on autopilot in this area of life. Not because they’re unaware — but because slowing down around intimacy can feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar.
Sessions usually involve conversation, yes. But they also involve paying attention in a different way. To reactions that show up before words do. To habits that repeat themselves without anyone choosing them. When those moments become visible, change stops being theoretical. You have options.
Who I work with
Individuals
I work with individuals who are single, dating, or in relationships — often people who have done a lot of thinking about intimacy, but still feel stuck when it comes to actually living it.
Some feel disconnected from desire.
Some aren’t sure what they want anymore, or whether what they want even feels allowed.
Others notice the same patterns repeating — pulling away, pushing through, or shutting down — without really choosing them.
Couples
I work with couples who aren’t broken — just worn down by repetition.
Through intimacy coaching for couples in the UK, we work directly with what’s happening between you. Not just the words, but the emotional safety underneath them. Not just sex, but how closeness is approached or avoided altogether.
Nothing is forced. No one is made wrong. The focus is on rebuilding contact in a way that feels honest and sustainable.
I work with individuals who are single, dating, or in relationships — often people who have done a lot of thinking about intimacy, but still feel stuck when it comes to actually living it.
Some feel disconnected from desire.
Some aren’t sure what they want anymore, or whether what they want even feels allowed.
Others notice the same patterns repeating — pulling away, pushing through, or shutting down — without really choosing them.
Couples
I work with couples who aren’t broken — just worn down by repetition.
Through intimacy coaching for couples in the UK, we work directly with what’s happening between you. Not just the words, but the emotional safety underneath them. Not just sex, but how closeness is approached or avoided altogether.
Nothing is forced. No one is made wrong. The focus is on rebuilding contact in a way that feels honest and sustainable.
Featured UK & International Media Expert
Professional Intimacy Coach for couples and Sex Surrogate Andre Lazarus appears on the new Channel 4 series Virgin Island, where he joins other experts to discuss therapeutic approaches to overcoming intimacy challenges. As a featured expert, Andre offers thoughtful guidance and real-world perspectives on how structured intimacy work and sex coaching in the UK can help clients build confidence.
How sex coaching works in practice
First sessions
We start by understanding what’s bringing you here now. Not a long history dump, but what feels most alive or difficult in the present. We talk about boundaries, expectations, and what support would actually feel useful.
Ongoing work
Over time, sessions may include:Exploring how desire, avoidance, or tension shows up in your body
Practicing new ways of communicating needs and limits
Working with emotional reactions as they arise, instead of avoiding them
Developing intimacy skills you can take into daily life
Some people notice that talking only gets them so far.
When that’s the case, I offer somatic intimacy coaching in London — work that stays closer to the body and pays attention to what shows up before words do.
Online and in-person
Some clients work with me online, others in person. In practice, the format matters less than people expect. A lot of the work happens in how you notice yourself, speak, and respond — and that carries over well on screen.
We start by understanding what’s bringing you here now. Not a long history dump, but what feels most alive or difficult in the present. We talk about boundaries, expectations, and what support would actually feel useful.
Ongoing work
Over time, sessions may include:
Some people notice that talking only gets them so far.
When that’s the case, I offer somatic intimacy coaching in London — work that stays closer to the body and pays attention to what shows up before words do.
Online and in-person
Some clients work with me online, others in person. In practice, the format matters less than people expect. A lot of the work happens in how you notice yourself, speak, and respond — and that carries over well on screen.
Meet Andre Lazarus, Sex and Relationship Coach in the UK
Role: Sex & Intimacy Coach
Method: Somatic-based coaching
Location: UK (online) and London (in person)
Not a fixer, not a guru, just a real human who knows how to hold space.
Method: Somatic-based coaching
Location: UK (online) and London (in person)
Not a fixer, not a guru, just a real human who knows how to hold space.
Andre Lazarus works with people who want to understand intimacy beyond surface-level advice. His approach is calm, direct, and grounded in lived relational experience. Rather than offering scripts or quick fixes, Andre supports clients in noticing how they show up in connection — emotionally, physically, and relationally — and how those patterns can change with awareness and practice.According to Andre Lazarus, effective sex and intimacy coaching begins with safety, clear consent, and learning to listen to the body without judgment.
Learning to Listen to Your Body Again
If you’re like most people, you’ve probably spent years overriding your body, telling yourself to “push through,” “be fine,” “stop overthinking.” It’s no wonder intimacy can feel confusing. Through somatic intimacy coaching in the UK, Andre helps you rebuild a relationship with your body that feels safe. Not dramatic. Not overwhelming. Just small moments of noticing: “Oh… that’s what I’m feeling.” And that noticing often becomes the beginning of real change.
What Andre Helps With
Andre offers online intimacy coaching for individuals and couples who want practical, body-aware support around connection, confidence, and communication. His work is educational and coaching-based, not clinical therapy, and is designed to complement — not replace — licensed mental health care when needed:
- Conversations about intimacy that feel difficult or stuck
- Emotional closeness that feels out of reach
- Mismatched desire or shifting desire
- Confidence that has slowly faded
- Reconnecting to your body after stress or a long relationship
- Softening shame around intimacy, expression, or touch
- Navigating communication that keeps looping in the same patterns
- Finding clarity if you’re single and unsure what you want next
- Rapid ejaculation and erectile conerns for men
- Bdsm and kink eduction within a consent-focused, online intimacy coaching framework
When Intimacy Feels Complicated… But You Don’t Know Why
Most people don’t come to coaching because of one big moment, they come because something has felt “off” for a while. Maybe desire changed. Maybe communication feels harder than it used to. Maybe the connection has faded, even though nothing is “wrong” on the surface. It can be confusing, even lonely, to not understand what’s happening inside you or within your relationship.
Through individual sessions and couples intimacy counseling in the UK, Andre helps you gently explore this space without pressure or self-judgment, simply with curiosity, compassion, and the reminder that nothing you’re feeling is unusual.
Frequently Asked Questions
1What issues can a sex coach help with?
A sex coach can help with intimacy issues, low desire, performance anxiety, communication problems, shame around sex, dating confidence, and building healthier relationships.
2What actually happens in a session?
Think of it as a slow, supportive conversation. You talk, Andre listens, and together you explore what’s happening in your emotional and intimate world. Simple somatic tools may be introduced, but always gently and with your consent.
3How is coaching different from therapy?
Therapy often explores the past. Coaching looks at your present patterns and future possibilities. Andre blends somatic awareness and relationship support in a way that complements therapy but isn’t a replacement for it.
4Does he work with couples?
Yes. Couples often find having Andre there to learn new techniques and navigate challenging conversations as an essential tool for their relationship.
5Is everything confidential?
Absolutely. Your experiences are held with privacy, respect, and deep care.
6Are online sessions really effective?
Yes. Most clients in the UK choose online sessions because they feel more comfortable opening up from their own space, especially with those with busy lives.
7How much does sex coaching cost?
It usually costs around £95–£300 per hour in the UK. Some coaches also offer packages or online programs.
8Can sex therapy involve sex?
Nope. Sex therapy is just talking and exercises — no sexual contact with your therapist.
9What does a sex and relationship coach do?
They help you communicate better, feel more confident, and enjoy intimacy.
10What is the meaning of sexological?
It just means being trained in the study of human sexuality and relationships.
11Can you get a sex coach?
Yes! You can hire a sex coach to help with intimacy, confidence, and relationships.
A Gentle Invitation
If something about this page speaks to you, even quietly, you’re welcome to reach out. You don’t need certainty. You don’t need the “right” words. You just need a willingness to begin. Whether you’re seeking a sex coach in the UK, surrogate partner therapy, somatic intimacy coaching, or relationship support that feels genuinely human, Andre is here to walk with you at a pace that feels safe. Whenever you’re ready, the door is open.
