— And How Somatic Coaching Can Help You Heal
You want connection.
You crave closeness.
But when the moment comes, your body says: “No.”
Sound familiar?
Fear of sexual intimacy is more common than you think — and it can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, and isolated, even in loving relationships.
But here’s the truth: you are not broken, and you are not alone.
What Is Fear of Sexual Intimacy?
It’s not about “just not being in the mood.”
It’s not about “not loving your partner enough.”
And it’s definitely not about something being wrong with you.
Fear of sexual intimacy runs deep. It’s rooted in the body’s nervous system and emotional blueprint, often shaped by:
- Past trauma (sexual, emotional, or physical)
- Shame or negative beliefs around sex
- Trust issues or fear of vulnerability
- A lack of connection to your own body
Why Does It Feel So Hard to Let Go?
When your mind says “yes” but your body says “no” — that’s not weakness or stubbornness. It’s your body trying to protect you.
The fear of intimacy is your nervous system’s way of avoiding potential pain, judgment, or emotional risk. Even if you want to be close, your body may shut down or distance itself when real vulnerability is required.
Signs You May Be Struggling with Fear of Sexual Intimacy
💔 You avoid physical touch or emotional closeness.
💔 You find yourself pulling away when sex is initiated.
💔 You struggle to stay present during intimacy.
💔 You feel anxious or even panicked at the thought of being emotionally naked.
💔 You often confuse sex with obligation, pressure, or performance — rather than pleasure.
You’re Not Alone — and You Don’t Have to “Fix” Yourself Alone
This is exactly where my work as a relationship coach comes in.
I work with men, women, and couples who are ready to:
✅ Unpack the emotional layers behind their fear of intimacy
✅ Reconnect with their own bodies in a safe, non-judgmental space
✅ Heal the gap between their emotional heart and physical desire
✅ Create authentic, nourishing intimacy in their relationships
🌟 Curious about exploring different types of love and connection?
Check out my post on consensual non-monogamy and alternative relationship structures to see how love can look different — and still be deeply fulfilling.
What Somatic Coaching Offers
Somatic coaching is about working with the whole self — not just your thoughts, but your body, sensations, and nervous system.
Through gentle, trauma-informed practices, I help clients:
✨ Learn to feel safe in their own skin.
✨ Understand their body’s reactions without shame.
✨ Build emotional and physical trust with themselves and their partners.
✨ Reclaim intimacy as something empowering and healing, not something to fear.
Your Body Wants Connection — Even If Fear Tells You Otherwise
This fear isn’t permanent.
It’s not your identity.
It’s a signal your body has been sending to keep you safe — but you no longer have to live by its old rules.
With the right guidance, the fear can shift, and intimacy can feel joyful, exciting, and safe again.
Ready to Break Free From Fear and Reconnect?
Whether you’re in a relationship or navigating this journey solo, know this: you don’t have to carry the weight of fear alone.
I offer:
💬 1:1 Somatic Coaching sessions
💡 Relationship & Intimacy Courses
🧘♀️ Workshops for Individuals and Couples
Together, we can uncover the real root of your fear and create a path toward deep, loving connection — both with yourself and others.
You are worthy of love, pleasure, and safety.
You don’t have to settle for distance and disconnection.
When you’re ready, I’m here. Let’s start this journey together.
👉 [Book your confidential call today].
Andre Lazarus is a Certified Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Guide, trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 9+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. Andre specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile concerns, rapid ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.
Book a discovery call and enroll into my courses to discover a deeper connection to yourself and your partner!
